Your child 1-3 years

We test the positive discipline!

We test the positive discipline!

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In a day, you must face a lot of potentially conflictual situations with your child. Positive discipline can help you defuse them. The advice of Béatrice Sabaté, psychologist and specialist of this educational approach.

In the morning, he refuses to be dressed

  • When you want to put on her pants, your toddler turns into a real eel to escape. No sooner did you put on a sock than he pulled it off. Every morning, it's the same corrida and you're regularly on the verge of a nervous breakdown!

How to calm the game?

  • Positive discipline offers you to use here a very effective tool: the construction of a routine. This is to imagine, in cooperation with your child, a protocol that he will follow to get dressed and that will be the same each morning. To associate him fully with this approach, give him choices: he can be a decision-maker. "Do you prefer that I put on your clothes one by one when you get dressed or that you put them in the shape of a man on your bed?" "For pimples, do you prefer to take care of it alone or do I help you?"

Why is it the right solution?

  • If your child has been heavily involved in developing his routine, he is less likely to dispute it later. It will be for him a repetitive and reassuring framework in which he will want to sink. He will no longer be in an uncomfortable situation where an all-powerful adult dresses him more or less with force, but in a voluntary action.

In the evening, he gets up ten times after bedtime

  • The rule is in bed at 8 pm! But your child does not hear it that way and finds a thousand excuses to get up to sometimes 21 hours. All your parties are wasted, you want him.

How to calm the game?

  • Your child may need to revisit the bedtime ritual with him, and redefine what he needs to soften the moment of separation before dark. For this you will use a firm and caring framework, one of the pillars of positive discipline.
  • Firm, because your negotiations will always take care to respect your adult interests. Benevolent, because you will hear the needs of your child.
  • He claims you go to bed next to him until he falls asleep? This is not compatible with the necessary firmness: you need to spend time with your spouse. But you can, for example, offer to stay five minutes. "During these five minutes, do you want me to sing or listen to your music?" You will also take care to explain what will happen if the ritual is not respected: "If you get up, I'll put you back in bed, without a word, without a hug." Provided, of course, to stick to this scenario!

Why is it the right solution?

  • You offer choices to your child, within a firm setting. There is nothing like it to make it much more "observant" than if you had imposed a ritual all tied up, while reassuring it thanks to the unshakable side of the frame and the predictability of the response in case of transgression.

Next page: he only wants pasta!

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